I’m having a hard time reading this because you described me exactly in your “concrete situation.” As much as that was me, though, you missed the real issue.

Forgiving people is simple. But how do you forgive faceless entities?

Four and a half months into my dream job, when the axe fell and my department got obliterated, was my boss at fault? No. He only did what he was told.

Who, then, do I forgive?

Ironically, I blogged about the nature of systems and how they break down people, yet people have no recourse against them. I can see my neighbor’s face when he wrongs me. But when the government or a megacorporation wrongs me, who is its face?

Christians are called to forgive individuals, but we’re also called to tear down systems, especially those empowered by the demonic. When we confuse individuals with systems, our efforts to forgive go wonky on us because God doesn’t want us to get cozy with evil systems—He wants us to bring all the weapons of heaven against them.

I could go on, but I’ve written more here:

http://ceruleansanctum.com/2007/03/kingdoms-and-bitterness.html